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8 Things to Ask Your Daughter’s Boyfriend

LifeCoach — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 09:55:21 +0000

There is a lot of mindless, pointless dating going on. A lot of boys with no good intentions that want to date some really fabulous young women in our communities. We’ve all heard about dads who joke, “I’ll get my gun out if any boy comes around.” But I find it strange that I rarely hear of any fathers or mothers giving wise council to these young men & women. Where are the fathers & mothers that know how to handle a guy who wants to date their daughters?

It’s time to Be Courageous. Ask Hard Questions.

1. What is your PURPOSE in dating my daughter?

2. What are your spiritual beliefs?

“Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

If they are not at peace with God, then you can just stop right there. We cannot act like these relationships are cute. We cannot support a relationship between a believer & a non-believer. This subject must not be treated lightly. In God’s law, a pastor cannot marry a couple that is not one in Christ. God has something Better! Even when women cannot believe this for themselves, we must remind them.

3. What are you doing to protect the PURITY of my daughter?

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

Is he touching her inappropriately? ASK!

4. How do you PROVIDE for yourself?

5. How do you PLAN on providing for a family?

6. What’s your credit score?

If they aren’t scared by now, this ought to get ‘em! One of the BEST indicators of a man’s integrity & responsibility is their credit score. Financial issues are the number one reason for divorce. We want something BETTER!!!

7. When was the last time you got angry? How did you respond?

8. Are you prepared for marriage?

Let me know what they say to this one. If he’s already proposed, you’re going to have to get on it & work fast!

What is the point in dating someone that isn’t suitable for marriage? There isn’t one.

I hope we see strong moms, dads, & leaders rise up! Be Courageous!

Give the single women & men in your community sound advice on dating & marriage. It’s your God given responsibility & honor to guide them. Not just to be their “friends.”

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Creative Youth & Young Adults

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My Experiment, Jenny Shain

LifeCoach — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 09:55:00 +0000

I’ve been doing a little experiment the last six months. I had previously thought that I had to say certain things, even if they were negative. I actually thought I would explode if I didn’t say them. Because I had to clear my head, get things off my chest. If I didn’t, surely my brain would ****Explode****. Then I realized that I didn’t want to be such a negative person. That those comments were just contributing to the negativity of society. So, the last six months I began testing the “EXPLOSION Theory.” Would I BUST & just DIE if I didn’t say things that were on my mind? Well, The VERDICT is IN! No explosions! & I’m still alive! It’s taken a lot of work & failure, but I’ve made progress. Last night for example, I really wanted to say something that was on my mind to my husband. But first I asked myself, Is this good for him? Is that the last thing I want him to hear as he goes to sleep? So, I let it go instead. I quickly decided that his life was better off without it.

Don’t Feed the Negativity Bear!

If you don’t feed the negativity in your mind, it fades.

Watch as negativity fades & love grows.

If you feel the SAME negative thought perpetuating itself for several hours, days, or weeks, write it down & put it in the trash. Better yet, burn it.

It can be difficult to change habits, I won’t lie. And sometimes you must speak up for yourself, set truths straight, or speak up so you don’t get run over. But for other things I have been amazed at how negative thoughts & comments can be set aside or deleted.

God has given us incredible POWER & COMMANDS to change our mindset. Make a list of your “Go to” sources for mind-shifts. Specific songs, quotes, attributes of God, verses, people, photos, animals, or loved ones that can change the way you think & feel.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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I am the Luckiest

LifeCoach — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 09:55:04 +0000

Someone said to me the other day, “I am the unluckiest person in the world.” And proceeded to tell me all about it. I tried not to roll my eyes & barf on myself. I wanted to interrupt her and tell her how I was probably THE Luckiest Person in the whole world. And that she should hang around me more often if she wanted to feel lucky! But I didn’t want to interrupt her because she seemed to really enjoy talking about how unlucky she was.

‎“Most people are thinking about what they don’t want & wondering why it keeps showing up over and over again.” J.Assaraf

“All achievements, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.” Napoleon Hill

The same is true for “Thought Poverty.” Poverty, desperation, lack, ungratefulness – those have their beginnings in our ideas as well. Perception is everything. Do NOT let your mind be overcome by “thought poverty.” Train your thoughts to believe that God loves ALL of you & wants the BEST for you. Then you will be able to allow the Spirit of God to flow through your mind, into your life, and overflow into joy!

“Only love let’s us see normal things In an extraordinary way.”

So, how’s life lookin to ya? Are you “Lucky”? (Most reformed Christians are not allowed to say “lucky” but I’m a renegade.) As you know from reading my post “100 Days Of Blessings” I have been counting my blessings everyday & saying THANK YOU GOD all day! The amazing thing is that the greater my awareness grows of how wonderful my life is, the more wonderful it becomes! The more grateful I am, then the more room I have in my heart, mind, & life to accept EVEN MORE Blessings! And YES I Accept them Lord! Thank YOU!

Are YOU Lucky?

Do you have friends? If you do, YOU are Lucky.

Do you have a church where people care about you & you can learn about God? If so, You’re Lucky!

Do you have a car? You’re Lucky.

Do you have a home? A job? An education? You’re Lucky.

Do you have a phone, computer, (insert your blessings here)… You’re Lucky!

Do you have an *imagination*? the ability to dream & create? You’re SUPER LUCKY!

Do you KNOW GOD? You’re Lucky

Does God know YOU? Yep, YOU, my friend, ARE LUCKY!

If you would like coaching to help you gain a different perspective, contact me!

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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Are You Sending Mixed Messages?

LifeCoach — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 09:50:44 +0000

Are you sending yourself, your family, your friends, strangers, your clients, & other people MIXED MESSAGES?

MORE importantly, are you sending mixed messages to YOURSELF & GOD?

If you believe God has called you to something, look for ways to say, “YES, GOD!” When people say things that AFFIRM that calling, do not look sheepishly away. Say “THANK YOU!” Accept it. Do not continue to look at your past when it seemed impossible. Turn & face forward. Notice every opportunity God gives you to open another door in that direction! No one else is going to open up those doors for you or walk through them. Don’t sit around and wait. Walk through and see what happens!

Don’t write one message on your goals list & vision board, then affirm something totally different & negative when you are talking with people. You’ve got to train your brain & your heart to take courage! Sometimes you shut your own self down by saying negative things about your gifts and calling. Do NOT send yourself mixed messages! Be clear in your direction & daily envision it opening up.

Here’s an example from myself.

Being a photographer and working for many years for other photographers I knew I wanted to make money on my own, own my own equipment, run my own business producing gorgeous wedding photography under Jenny Shain Photography, and more. Everyone around me kept telling me that as well. But I sent mixed messages to my brain saying, “that is too hard, too expensive, too risky, impossible in this economy.” And frankly I was getting mad at so many people telling me what a great business I would have! Because they didn’t understand how difficult and expensive it would be. And when you keep telling others & God “no,” it really slows down the process! Then one day I decided to change my perspective & say, “well of course that is possible. Yes, God. I am open to receiving the camera & computer equipment you have for me. Yes, God. I am totally open to charging people for my services under my own business. Yes, God, what avenues shall I look for my resources under?” I decided to tell people YES. Yes, when they had “ridiculous” (what I thought before) ideas of how I could obtain the equipment. YES when people asked me to shoot their portraits, weddings, & events. I started to accept & believe that there were multiple streams of resources waiting for me to tap in to!

FLIP IT!

The time I spent worrying about how it could be done, I now spend envisioning HOW it CAN be Done! Envisioning how happy people are with my work.

Now here is YOUR CHALLENGE. For the remaining time in this year, take the time you spent worrying & mentally pushing something WONDERFUL away & spend that time now imagining what is possible.

“Your imagination is your preview of life’s coming attractions.”-Einstein.

How does this apply to you?

Are you sending one message when you write down your goals & a different message when God shows you a door, a possible passageway for that goal? Some of you need to CLEAR your emotional suitcase so that you can MAKE ROOM TO SAY YES. The emotional hoarding has taken up WAY too much space in your life. You must STOP that spinning tornado in your mind so that you can clearly hear from God. THAT is a choice. Command those past emotions to HUSH UP! so you can send YOURSELF, OTHERS, & GOD the message of saying YES to your Future! CLEAR that pipeline from you to God…keep it clean & fresh & Renewed.

Because Every Good & Perfect Gift is coming down that pipeline!

This is ALL about RECEIVING. Receive it.

If you would like coaching in this area, contact me.

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

PS: All photography & art by Jenny Shain

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The Day You Find Out Why

LifeCoach — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 09:55:47 +0000

When you understand your purpose in the world, you gain POWER, focus, you gain the right to say yes & to say no. You understand that what God has called you to is bigger than you. The bigger picture is WAY WAAAY bigger than you. And when you know that, you have come to the RIGHT place.

The power & resources to do it come from the Source of ALL power, your Heavenly Father. When the disciples walked with Jesus they lacked what we have. Jesus said it would be better for him to go so that the Holy Spirit would come to us. Now the actual Spirit of God lives within us & has created good works for us to do. Before time began, God predestined specific things that ONLY YOU would do! Open up your mind & DREAM BIG. No, I mean BIGGER. Ok, A LOT Bigger. GOD has bigger plans for YOU than you do! Let’s get to it.

“And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus….For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:6,7,10

As my grandfather lay in a hospital bed last week, I went to see him because I thought it would be my last chance. I was SO thankful to be able to lift his legs to put pillows under his feet, to put vaseline on his cracked lips, & to hold a cup of cold milk for him to drink. I knew in that moment that that was my purpose in life for that day. That I was doing exactly what God wanted me to do. And I was exactly where I wanted to be. I was so happy, even though I knew I might not see him again. As we prayed over him that evening, he said, “Yes” & “Amen” to all of our prayers. It was right in that moment I had my “Why” & knew that God had this all planned out from the beginning. Our beginning & our end. It was all there in God’s sovereign plan. Every minute.

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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Are You an “Emotional Hoarder?”

LifeCoach — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 09:50:59 +0000

It can be hard to let go of negative emotions. Maybe something someone said, a reaction you felt to an event, a weird vibe you got from being around someone else, or something that happened years ago. Something trigged those negative emotions & you won’t let go of them. Some people go their ENTIRE lives hoarding this stuff! This “emotional hoarding” weighs down our thoughts, relationships, businesses, productivity, creativity, & success. Phew! That’s a lot! And For SURE God has something WAY Better for You!!!

The First Step is: Recognition. “I recognize I am being an emotional hoarder at this moment.

Second Step: Flip. “I think I’d like to release those emotions.”

Third Step: Expand. “What would it feel like to think the opposite?”

Fourth Step: Commit. “Yes that is what I am going to do.”

Fifth Step: No Action. Do not speak of it. Give the negative thoughts of your past none of your emotional, physical, or spiritual energy. Pay NO attention to the emotional hoarding you were accustomed to.

Sixth Step: Replace. “I LOVE meditating on _____” (Instead)

This emotional clearing & releasing will free up an incredible amount of energy in your mind & soul. Sometimes you may need to do this several times a day. It is necessary to simplify your thinking-simplify your emotional load. You must edit & release any thoughts that are not serving you or glorifying God. I have noticed that very productive & joyful people have mastered this releasing. If you want to fire up some major ROCKETS & travel at lighting speed to your dreams & the life you love, then start practicing this emotional release. It’s God’s will for YOU!

Isaiah 43:18-25 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. …I provide water in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland, to give drink to my people, my chosen, the people I formed for myself that they may proclaim my praise.”

If you are looking for help embracing a BIGGER dream, let’s get you coached!

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

PS: All photography by Jenny Shain

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There’s WAY More!

LifeCoach — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 09:50:58 +0000

The Invaluable Lesson I Learned When My Hard Drive Crashed.

The day before Christmas Eve last year, my computer stopped as I was trying to load new software. I was staring at it, telling it to COME ON! But there was a different plan. It did not listen to me. The hard drive crashed.

My “whole life” as a photographer & life coach was on that hard drive. All of my art, my notes, my work. I couldn’t believe it. What happened next was pretty amazing. I CHOSE not to worry about it. It would be 10 days before I could have it checked out. I chose to enjoy every day without my computer & have a great holiday. This mind-shift was like a miracle for me. When the computer specialists got to it in January, they confirmed that everything on it was irretrievable.

I had a huge revelation at this point. I felt like God was telling me that the past didn’t matter...what I had created & saved on my computer didn’t matter because of what God ordained for me to create in the future. It was like, what’s the point of loosing a dollar if you know you are going to make millions? The art & work I had created & saved on the computer was nothing compared to what else God had in store. Then I had this “WOW! WHAT do YOU have for ME to create?!” perspective.

It was as if I had been eating crumbs off the floor but NOW I was sitting at the King’s banquet table ready to chow down! I simply let go of the past so I could accept more. Now I’ve got a new hard drive & I always think, “Ok God! Let’s fill this sucker up!” Now I look DOWN-STREAM for ways God is flowing & wants me to use my gifts. “Where attention goes, energy flows and results show,” (T.Harv Eker). Life is a display of redemption.

“When you finally let go of the past something better comes along!”

If YOU are looking for a mind-shift, let’s get you coached!

PS: “When things are falling apart, they’re really falling together.”

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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We Get What We Want

LifeCoach — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 19:16:04 +0000

Sometimes we create the negative, the pushing away of our dreams, because the action, the response, or the people & events that would surround our dreams coming to fruition are scary. So we get what we want most, which is to avoid the anxiety. The anxious thoughts are like little gremlins trying to steal your joy & keep you off track. If we don’t act on the dream we don’t have to worry about what others will think about it, how we will handle the details, the work, or interacting with people we don’t know. This is just more of the fight to climb “upstream.” You are telling God that you are really not ready for it. So you work & think backwards (upstream). And, let’s just be honest, I see a lot of people blaming God for this.

FLIP that around!

Start SAYING YES to every wonderful detail that comes up regarding the dream. Yes I handle it with ease. Yes, MORE please. Yes, I can fly past those gremlins & laugh as I make more money, help more people, & create a beautiful life. Flying downstream.

We have to CHANGE what we REALLY Want and

say YES to that vision every day.

God has a bigger vision for your life than you do. Choose that one!

LEAN DOWNSTREAM BABY, WOOHOOO!!!

KEEP SAYING YES.

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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100 Days of Blessings

LifeCoach — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 09:50:19 +0000

Saturday, Oct 1, I began my “100 Days of Blessings.” I am actively looking for blessings, thriving, thankfulness, success, & celebrating who we are & what God has given us. I am focusing on appreciating the abundance that surrounds me. I am making notes of the blessings that are in my life. Instead of looking & fighting “upstream,” I am looking forward & excited about what is “downstream.” I began this perspective a while back, but now I am starting the 100 days experiment, ending on “The Day of Epiphany” or “Three Kings’ Day,” January 6, 2012. I’d love for you to join me! Let’s see what we can notice & just how many blessings we have!

I am forgetting what is behind & pressing on to what is ahead. I have some ideas that I’d like to see come to fruition. I have had some anxiety about how those would happen. But I am now trusting the Creator to show me what is Best. He will guide me. I trust Him that I will have the answers at the right time. The solutions & ideas will arrive at just the right moment. I dont need to have everything figured out today, because it will come when I need it. I release the PROCESS & the Outcome. I love what is coming. I am so THANKFUL. GRATEFUL. I dont have to have it all together, I just TRUST the SOURCE of ALL GOOD things.

Prov 2:7 “He stores up sound wisdom for the upright; He is a shield to those who walk in integrity.”

I trust the owner of that storehouse, the Father of ALL wisdom, the shielder, & the keeper of my integrity. THANK YOU GOD!

So, I am Praying, Asking, Seeking, & Acting. But first just trusting & believing. Counting the blessings that encompass me. 100 days. Comment below, shoot me an email or join me on facebook to share your experiences for “100 Days of Blessings.”

PS: In case you didn’t notice, if you feel the need to rehash the past (fighting the moment by looking upstream), find the negative, or squash somebody’s dream, call somebody else Cause I’m BUSY!!!

PPS: If you are excited & thankful about what God has given you & where you are going, contact me! I’m your gal! We’ve got a lot of great work ahead of us!

It’s gonna be a great ride, so join me &

LEAN DOWNSTREAM BABY, WOOHOOO!!!

Now let’s go change the world.

Professional Life Coach, Jenny Fox Shain, M.A.

Life Coach to Visionary & Creative People

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